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Biographies, Page Three
Went from Tam to COM.... did a year....damn near flunked out....went to Europe, fiddled around, came home, went to COM...did another year.....damn near flunked out again .....Went from Sausalito to Toronto....running after some man, of course, and got very tired of all the 'draft' jokes. Went back and forth a couple times then decided to stay in Canada mostly because I stood at least some chance of making a living in theatre(note the UK spelling)......so I did the necessary to get my landed immigrant status, which, in those days, consisted of having an address and someone who would say they would hire me. Got my landed status and immediately went back to Marin...the relationship having gone the way of the ghost a fair time before. Did College of Marin...again...did quite well this time and got that AA in Fine Arts, for what it's worth. Came away deciding that maybe Canada wasn't such a bad time after all. Drove up to Vancouver fully intending to turn right and go to Toronto but got a job in Vancouver as Assistant Stage Manager of The Vancouver Playhouse. Interesting story...over maybe a large (ONE) Vodka martini....I don't do more than one any more. Anyhow.....got my Equity card...got another job...and another...and 12 years later decided that I never wanted to talk to another actor, ever, so went back to Community College....another AA, this time in Computer Systems Management.... got a job programming computers which morphed into tech writing and systems analysis. After another 12 years...do you see a pattern here? |
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Now I am semi-retired....doing the odd show...both acting and stage managing....and maintaining a couple of websites on the side. My present and, trust me, only and last, spouse and I have just celebrated(?) our 26th and inertia is firmly in place. Not a bad thing, all in all. We are living in North Vancouver in a place known as Deep Cove which is alarmingly like Sausalito only smaller and much greener. We own a house which is falling down around our ears and are parents to two large dogs and two annoying cats. The cat population varies but we usually keep it to two dogs. It is presently, and virtually always, absolutely pissing down with rain and the dogs are clamouring to go out in it.
I've gotten older, fatter, and less shrill. I have quit smoking and have developed a life saving allergy to the histamines in most alcoholic beverages. I exercise, under vociferous protest, twice a week and sing in the Universal Gospel Choir. We sing spiritual music of all faiths....I have NOT been born again or embraced any organized religion. I lately have rekindled my friendship with Jan McCready Harris. All in all...Life is grand. Oh yeah.................I am using Sarah instead of Sally because it sounds better on the theatrical resume....I do, however, answer to almost anything that isn't profane.....not that I mind profane but hey...we must maintain a smidgen of dignity. |
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After graduation, I attended UCSB for one year then transferred to UC Berkeley where I graduated with a degree in French in 1967. Rather than spending a year in France before I started my teaching career, I found myself with child and ended up spending 8 years in the wilds on No Ca living on a mining claim with Eddie Isaacs (Zeke). Remember him? Hes the one that tried to bite Mickey Johnstons finger off during a fight at Judy Dexters party. I learned how to live off the land in those years and got to spend the first years of my childrens lives with them at home. I also learned that it doesnt take much to be happy and comfortable. Im still a minimalist when it comes to material stuff. Heh, if you need a recipe for corned venison, Ive still got one! In 1978, We bought a house right on the ocean in Brookings, OR. Zeke missed the mountains so he returned there and lived there until he died at age 53. We gave him a wonderful Memorial Service and scattered his ashes in the river he so loved. In Brookings, I got involved with Little Theater and did a lot of acting and directing. I also learned how to do stained glass and taught Coversational French for the local community college. In 1986, I decided to move to the Rogue Valley and went back to college in Ashland to get my teaching credential. Instead of a credential, I opened up a small seafood restaurant with my then husband. It only lasted a year. In 1987, I fell in love with Jesus Christ and in 1988 I took my last drink and took my last drug. I ended up working in the alcohol/drug treatment field as a counselor for ten years. I loved working with the clients but eventually I couldnt handle the pressure of the overwhelming paper work and the dysfunction of the agency itself so I quit. One of the best decisions I ever made! Two years ago, my present husband and I bought a home in Paradise, CA and after 23 years in beautiful Oregon, I returned to CA. Gods blessed us with an incredible place of beauty. Outside my bedroom and office windows is a lovely creek with a noisy waterfall and an acre garden with the most beautiful trees, ferns, flowers and grasses. Every morning, a gaggle of at least five deer meander through the garden. What a treat! Ive put together a home-based Internet business for myself and spend my time making ceramic tiles for mosaic artists. Oh, boy! I get to play in the mud everyday! Sometimes I even get to use my own tiles! You can visit my website at Papoola's Mosaic Tiles. Most of my life has revolved around relationship. Vacations mean going to see the kids and grandkids. Im an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous and love working with newcomers. Ive even taught Sunday School for years. Whoda thunk it? God has been so good to me. Hes blessed me beyond my wildest dreams and put so many people in my life to love. This past six months, Ive lost two I loved the most: my 13 year old grandson and my wonderfully eccentric mother. Ive attached a pix of the three of us just a year ago. Look at the joy! The Good News? I know beyond a shadow of a doubt, Ill be with them in Heaven someday. In the meantime, I try to maintain a grateful heart, I give myself permission to cry when Im sad and I look for ways to honor my Father, my mother and my grandson in how I treat others. After all these years, I finally know for sure what my purpose in life is and Ive experienced true peace. Have you? What an honor to serve Him. |
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After high school I went to Stanford, and worked my way through (plus loans; Dad had lied about having the funds; I did everything from music store [a continuation of my stint at the Village Music] to hustling) and majored in history, music, and classics. The classics was a continuation of my (meager) interest in Latin with Fitzgerald; music was my passion kindled by Mabel Pittinger, but I had only a moderate talent for it (which I well knew); the history was easy (with Kappelman's training, I was good at it). In the summer after my sophomore year I worked in a brewery in Switzerland (Frau Roth's German came in very handy) and made enough $$ to buy a huge BMW motorcycle and spent the Fall touring Italy, Greece (my second home now), up through Yugoslavia (as it was then), and Austria. Left the bike with American Express in Hamberg to ship back to Stanford (yes, it arrived 10 months later), and continued on through Germany (did East Berlin through Checkpoint Charlie and was detained for 2 days), France, and England and came back. The following semester I took a Mythology in Greek Art course with a distinguished professor who asked if anyone would volunteer to help him catalogue the Greek & Roman clay lamps in the university museum, and I raised my hand, and changed my life. Back at Stanford I began ancient Greek and ran around with David Harris & Joan Baez & Ronnee Blakely and participated in anti-war protests, but I was really interested in the old stuff in the basement of the Stanford Museum. I graduated (1967) and went to grad school at the University of Cincinnati, department of Classics which has its own endowment and had then the best Greek archaeology program in the US. Soon I got married to a woman I had met at Stanford (or rather, since I wasn't paying any attention to her in a horseback riding class, she ran me over in her red MG; I started paying attention then). I got my MA in 1969, and was ok'd to continue on to the PhD, and was drafted. Since my wife & I were having a messy affair with an old boyfriend of hers, the army gave me a 4-F and I went to Greece that summer to start excavations on the island of Kea (just east of Athens) and to start the one-year archeological training program at the American School of Classical Studies, which I completed in 1970, and then stayed on in Athens, writing my dissertation (on the chronology of Late Bronze Age [ca. 1600-1200 BC] sealstones and fingerrings). At the time, Greece was run by a military Junta that the US was supporting (one of my down moments was giving Spiro T. Agnew a tour of the Acropolis), and which was very repressive and autocratic ("el Leader" posters everywhere). As an archaeologist, I was nominally constrained by the US Embassy not to interfer in politics. But my wife was not so constrained. And soon we were mixing with the underground resistence people (Theodorakis, Hatzidakis, Melina Mercouri et al.) and, since she was doing her dissertation on the French writer Robbe-Grillet (sadistic novels), she was running messages and money to the government in exile in Paris and I was boarding runaway resistence fighters in our apartment and smuggling food and money to prisoners. Everything came to a crash in October of 1973. I had gotten my PhD earlier that May and was teaching in an British high school in Athens (the entire senior class everything from piano to trig, and coaching the soccer team [didn't know nothing about soccer, but I sure learned]). In October, the students at the Polytech University rebelled, and resisted all attempts to surrender until the military stormed the walls with tanks; there were fleeing students everywhere and 2, wounded, made it to our apartment where we hid them. The whole city was put under curfew (we did grocery shopping by candlelight at 2 am, sneaking around apartment complexes). By December, things had lightened up but it was obvious that the government was going to fall. Then, out of the blue, I got an invitation to teach at Duke University in North Carolina (where'z dat?), I accepted, my wife told me she was staying in Athens with a Greek pilot (who was having an affair with his half-brother; I warned her) and that she was having an abortion (!). So that was pretty much the end of our marriage. I returned to the States in July, 1974, alone. At Duke, everything went by in a kind of blur. I was still going on digs in the summer, mostly to Greece where I dug at Knossos in Crete and on the island of Melos (these were long digs lasting several years each, mostly Late Bronze Age but sometimes good classical Greek stuff), and shorter digs in southern Italy (a Jewish-Christian catacomb) and in northern Israel (an early synagogue). Upon arrival at Duke I came out as gay (Dad wanted to know what he had done wrong - plenty, but that wasn't the cause of my being gay; Mom just wanted me happy), taught Greek art & archaeology day-in and day-out, loved it, was denied tenure in 1981 because one of my colleagues wrote a letter to the Promotion & Tenure Committee that I was immoral, and then circulated copies of it - he was so proud. I got a copy and took it to the President of the university (former govenor Terry Sanford) who was outraged (bless him!) and I was tenured the next year (full professor in 1990). So I became political (yet again) and conducted grassroots campaigns to get "sexual orientation" added to the university's anti-discrimination statement (passed 1988), to establish a President's committee on Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual (and eventually Transgender, Transsexual) concerns (1991), a LGBT student programming unit and center (1992), the first LGBT Studies course (1993, which I taught every Spring semester, as an add-on [= no $]), a certificate-granting undergraduate minor in LGBT Studies (1995), same-sex spousal equivalency benefits for staff (1996), and a freshman-only program of allied courses in race, class, and gender & sexuality called "Diversity & Identity " (1996). In 1992 I went to an archaeology conference in Tasmania (go figure) and met Paul Rehak, a Roman archaeologist. We kept telling each other we both had boyfriends (I had met mine in 1978, an [unemployed] actor) and were therefore off-limits, but that didn't work. Back state-side, I threw my boyfriend of 13 years out of my life, Paul did the same with his, and he left his going-nowhere job at Loyola University (Catholic institution & out-gay, not much future there) and moved in with me and taught occasionally at Duke. Then my 25-Year service medal came through the mail and I realized that things better happen soon or another 25 years would pass in the blink of an eye and I'd be dead. So we started looking around, and lo! the University of Kansas beckoned. Its classical archaeologist was retiring in 2001, and Paul landed a temporary job replacing her for one semester; I moved out with him and our 2 dogs on an unpaid leave so KU could look me over. The department here and we were/are a great match; they thought it was cool we were a gay archaeology couple handling both Greek and Roman art (so does Art History, so does Women's Studies for which I do sexuality courses). We met the deans who also thought we we could offer the university something (a married couple in the same department is rare; a gay couple in the same department, well, we're it), and Paul was offered a contract, then a month later I was offered one and we both accepted, much to disbelief of our colleagues back at Duke. We then bought "Hadherway", this great 1880s house at the top of Mt Oread in Lawrence KS, and moved in that summer. I went back to Duke to honor the end of my contract and taught my last courses there that Fall, and moved permanently (not a glance backwards) to Lawrence on 1 January 2002 (change is great, moving is hell). I've just completed my first full year here at KU and love it. Northeast Kansas is rolling hills with a few trees and lots of sky (much like northern Marin; North Carolina is rolling hills too but they're covered in thick pine forests, so you see neither hills nor sky; plus it has mosquitoes that raise welts and make gardening a medical nightmare). And we have 5 dogs now, a 3rd from our next-door neighbor who turned 82 and was being dragged down the street, and 2 Shelties we couldn't resist. If you need more information (masochist), take a look at my homepage and resume+bibliography (linked): http://www.people.ku.edu/~jyounger . So that's my life. I look forward greatly to seeing you all! |
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From Connecticut to New York to Los Angeles to Mill Valley: I arrived in Mill Valley when I was 7 and attended Park School then we moved to Blithedale Terrace when I was 9 and I changed to Old Mill School. I stayed with Father and his family (Stepmother, two brothers and a sister) in the summer in San Pedro and winters with Mother and my Stepfather in Mill Valley. My Stepfather still lives in the same house on Blithedale Terrace, he is 95 and counting. I really liked to be alone and walk along the creeks or find secret places to hide out. Mill Valley was great for that. School was very frightening as was most everything for me then. I spent a lot of time being afraid as a child. I had a nice Grandfather and a nice neighbor to believe in me. By High School we lived on Lomita Drive and I had a horse on the hill behind Edna Maguire School. That was very cool. A great escape. When Graduation was finally over, I fled as quickly as I could from oppressive alcoholic abusive homes. There were a few good things about home and I focus on that, but I just wanted to get away and never see anyone I knew again, mostly my family. I found a job, got married, brought my beautiful daughter LeAnn into the world in 1964, got divorced in 1967, worked at a variety of positions, Flight attendant, Food server, Secretary, Tax Assistant. Had a pretty good gig going for a while where I changed jobs every four months, I liked that, at least it was not boring. I dont like to be bored or sit still for very long. I got married again, bought a house in San Jose and brought two more beautiful children into the world, my Son Brent in 1970 and my Daughter Allison in 1972. Plunged into the chaos of raising Children and along about 1982 I realized that the Husband was so far into alcoholism we couldnt pull him out, so he had to go. Finally took some classes on the alcohol issue (John Bradshaw tapes, of course you have known him all your life, honey, hes your mother!). I made peace with the past and left it there, no easy task, that. I enrolled in Foothill College for a while, that was great but I needed to keep track of my teens. Went back to work and tried a few different positions eventually found myself doing Benefits Administration in Human Resources. That seems fun and I am not bored. To relieve the stress of raising teenagers alone, I took a lot of classes in Landscape Design and liked that the best. I still have the same house with a very pretty garden. In 1990 I began to go to the Saddle Rack to learn Line Dancing and I liked that too. It really helped bring some focus to the left side of my brain. All of the children finally left home and are finding their way. Now there are three beautiful Grandchildren to play with, Adam 1988, Laura Rose 1996 and Katie 2002. Two years ago my favorite dance partner, Richard moved in with me and we are having a fine time. We still like to go dancing and he is very funny, keeps me laughing and you guessed it, not bored. Richard owns a Deli so at least one of us is working. I was caught up in the down in the valley and have been looking for a job for so long I am totally bored of the search. Something good will come along, it always does. I am doing some SHRM updates (HR Stuff) for brain stimulation, about a million home projects, some volunteer gigs and of course, we dance. I am not afraid anymore, I still hate to travel and avoid it as best I can. I have learned how to tame the psychic stuff, ground and center as well as protect myself from unwanted energy. I have total faith and trust in the universe. Life is good. |