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Is Your Success in Romantic Relationships Hindered Because You're a Bimbo? |
Jerome Murray, Ph.D.
To find out your B.Q. (Bimbo Quotient) take the test. Answer "True" or "False" to each question (True means "True, or mostly True"), and False means "False, or mostly False"). Use a piece of paper to record your answers until I figure out how to score this electronically.
1. My idea of the perfect man is someone really good-looking with lots of money.
2. To get a man you should pretend to be a little dumb.
3. Men who drive sports cars are more attractive than men who don't.
4. If a guy spends a lot of money on you it's only fair to let him have a few sexual favors.
5. It's okay to flirt with other guys as long as your boy friend doesn't find out.
7. A woman's most important goal is to find a good man to take care of her.
8. I enjoy the relationship more if the man is a little dangerous.
9. If I can't find a man to take care of me I don't know how I'll make it financially.
10. It's important to try and be what the man wants you to be if you want to keep him.
11. Never let a guy see you unless your hair and make-up are perfect.
12. Most women take sex too seriously.
13. If a guy treats you real good he's probably a wimp.
14. If you don't have a guy it means you're a loser.
15. Handling money is a man's job.
16. It's okay to date a married man if his wife doesn't satisfy him.
17. To get a a man you should dress and act as sexily as you can.
18. If you don't want to date a guy, tell him you're still getting over your last relationship.
19. If a man is a real man he'll probably treat you a little rough.
20. When you're with a guy you should always agree with what he says so he'll like you more.
21. The guys I'm attracted to have trouble making commitments.
22. I would never consider dating a guy who wore glasses and was losing his hair.
23. If you don't want to see a guy again make up a story so you don't hurt his feelings.
24. Having sex with a guy is the best way to keep him.
25. I feel depressed when I'm not in a relationship with a guy.
Score one point for each "True" answer and continue to get your B.Q.
Before you find out your score maybe you want to know...
WHAT'S
A 
BIMBO?
Bimbos are characterized by:
VALUE FLUFF
A bimbo has materialistic values. She is attracted to a man for superficial reasons such as appearance, wealth, and the degree of excitement he generates.SUGAR DADDY HUNGER
A bimbo feels incomplete, frightened, and inadequate by herself. She wants a relationship so someone will "take care of her." This over dependence on a man leads to a failure to develop life skills. She lacks personal goals and ambition and craves a life of comfort and ease. She doesn't like to expend disciplined effort or defer gratification.SEX APPEAL ADDICTION
A bimbo is addicted to the need to be desirable. This is manifested by an obsessive emphasis on her physical appearance, especially those features which make her "sexy." Her greatest fear is the fear of losing her attractiveness and being unwanted and alone.BODY SWAPPING
A bimbo is willing to swap her body for the comfort she craves. She treats her body as a commodity giving it in trade for the favors she desires. She packages her sex appeal and markets herself as a product then looks for a "buyer" using her body as bait to catch a man.
Now that you know what a Bimbo is
(Remember, score one point for each question you answered "True.")
0 -5 = You have a below average B.Q. You're capable of taking care of yourself and don't need a man to make you complete. You are interested in someone to share your life, not to "make" your life. Even though your "Bimbo Quotient" is low, if even one answer was "True" working to change it can increase your potential for success in love.
6 - 10 = Your B.Q. is average, but that's not good enough for you, is it? When with a man you fluctuate between acting maturely and acting like a bimbo. When you're with a man who is attracted to Bimbos it brings out the bimbo in you. Be more selective, even though it may lead to "dry" spells. It's worth it to be with someone who brings out, and reinforces the best in you, and has the ability to return your love.
11 - 15 = You're bogged down in adolescence. You've never really grown past the superficial behaviors and values that govern adolescent relationships. Your tenuous grasp on adulthood causes you to go from relationship to relationship never really understanding what went wrong when they break up; and they inevitably break up. The main difference between you and a complete bimbo is awareness. Even though you don't understand why, you are vaguely aware, and concerned, that something is wrong with your relationship behavior. You're right, and it doesn't have to continue. Put more emphasis on being able to take care of yourself. Start appreciating the deeper values in relationships such as respect, loyalty, honesty, devotion, common goals, reliability, and the ability to give and receive love.
16 - 25 = Uh oh! You're a B-I-M-B-O! Read this carefully. I'll try to keep it simple so you'll understand. Your relationships are superficial and transient. You are attracted to jerks, and they love you. Not much chance of having real love with that combination. You feel empty and incomplete when not in a relationship, and when you are in one it's not much better. Your emotions go from excitement and elation to increasingly frequent periods of frustration, disappointment, and pain. You don't need a man to love you, you need to love yourself. The reason your score was so high may be simply early and frequent exposure to dysfunctional examples of "getting" a man, or you may have been seriously stunted by traumatic childhood experiences. Whatever, a little psychotherapy might not be a bad idea to help you discover the origin of your self-destructive behavior and ways to correct it.
Copyright © 1992. Jerome Murray, Ph.D. All rights reserved.
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